Quit Porn Addiction Using Meditation and Self-hypnosis

This may come as a surprise to many readers, but excessive pornography watching is not an act of sexual deviancy, it is not sexual at all.

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The condition

Users, or over-users, watch porn as an escape from bad feelings or negative emotions, to get away from things happening in their lives that they have no control over. Rather than face these feelings and emotions and work through them, porn watchers turn increasingly to porn, watching more and more as the need increases. Quite often the porn that they started out watching, more domestic, ‘regular’ sex is replaced with darker, more brutal acts.

A porn addict is often beset with feeling of helplessness when they think of their addiction; the feelings of low self-worth and poor self-esteem are exacerbated and they feel even less worthy of love and support than they did before their poor self-image drove them into the arms of porn in the first place. This makes the user reluctant to ask for help, and this can create or widen a gap between a person and their loved ones, which can have a knock-on effect, pushing the person into watching more and more porn.

The symptoms

The symptoms of a porn addiction are feelings of guilt, shame and low self-esteem, poor interpersonal relationships and, often, the inability to have a normal sexual experience – failure to achieve erection, premature ejaculation or not being able to ejaculate at all. Female users can become fixated on replicating their favourite porn scenes, to the point they do not enjoy intercourse that is not planned and choreographed.

Porn watching can take up much if not all of a user’s spare time; days can be taken off work or school missed due to their anxiety not to be away from their computer screen for too long. Porn addiction was not too much of a problem before the days of the internet when magazines and videos had to be purchased from the top shelf of shops or ordered through the post, but these days it is incredibly easy for almost anyone to get free access to pornography displaying a wide range of sexual practises. With so much porn out there addicts can become overwhelmed and watch more and more each day, losing track of the real world and becoming more and more isolated with each hour that passes.

The cure

The good news is that porn addiction is curable, 100% recoverable, with the recovered user being able to hold his or her head high again before too long. For most sufferers the cure is to cut off all access to porn, to not watch anything sexual on the internet for as long as it takes for the person to begin to appreciate a real life partner again, and preferably, ever again. Celibacy for the period of recovery is strongly recommended as this helps the brain “re-sensitise” itself. This process can take as short a time as a month or as long as three months, it varies in each case.

Meditation and Self-hypnosis

In order to meditate or hypnotise oneself, one needs to find a quiet place and time in the day to sit, close eyes and concentrate on the breathing. This is easier said than done but you need to close your eyes and be aware of the feelings and sounds of the air going in and out and counting the breaths. Prolonged successful practice of only a few minutes will reward the meditator with a relaxed calm state.

This meditative state of deep relaxation with near-perfect concentration and without thinking of the past or the future is perfect for self-hypnosis. Just meditation alone will help but if a porn addict supplants positive non-porn affirmations at the time of deep relaxation, they will find a reduction in the urge to view porn.

An example of a good affirmation would be “I see the beauty in everyone around me”. This increases your appreciation of real life and shows the fantasy world of pornography to be unreal and unappealing. Repeating confidence-building mantras can also enforce the sufferer’s determination to break free of the binds of porn.

During the first couple of weeks the user will be most tempted to fall back into the addiction, rather than deal with the problems that led to it in the first place.

Self-hypnosis can provide encouragement and strength while meditation can calm the user down, making it easier to deal with the bad feelings, negative emotions and poor self-image that kept the user in the grip of the addiction to such a point that it became a problem.

The pure, cleansed state that meditation engenders will enhance the recovery of confidence and self-worth – the sooner the user feels that they deserve to be healthy and that they have a place in society the better for their recovery.

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Comments

  1. Mike Anderson says:

    Thanks, this is great.